If you’re out there in the modern dating world, you likely know by that now that you will need to do some texting from time to time to setup plans.
In this article, I will tell you everything you will EVER need to know about texting.
ALWAYS text a girl you just met as opposed to calling
It’s perfectly fine to call her after you get to know her, but early on, just communicate with her through text to setup plans.
Some women won’t even pickup their phone for a guy they barely know.
Take it easy early on with the texting
Yes, it’s fine to text women you like, but don’t get too carried with this, at least early on.
There’s no need to be dropping random texts all day long to women you barely know.
In fact, sending too many texts, especially before a first date, could cause her to “overthink” things and she could talk herself out of meeting you.
Just play things cool and she’ll meet up.
One huge advantage of texting is that it’s quick and simple
If you want to set up a date, all you need to do is drop a simple,
“Hey. Hope you’re having a good day. How about a movie at 8 tonight at my place?”
You don’t need to call her and catch her at the perfect time.
You’ve sent the text and now she can reply whenever she gets a chance.
Although texting is simple and quick, one huge drawback of it is that it’s very impersonal and things can be taken out of context
I have a very sarcastic sense of humor which is fine and dandy when a woman can see my facial expressions, body language, and hear my voice tonality, but with texting, it’s a totally different ballgame.
A missed word/exclamation mark could cause a witty/sarcastic text to come off as rude or arrogant instead.
Avoid using too many smiley faces
There is nothing wrong with using smiley faces here and there.
In fact, sometimes a smiley face will prevent a text from coming off as too cocky.
However, don’t overdo it.
Using a smiley face in every sentence will make you come off as a total dork.
Avoid using stupid slang
“”Yo gurrrrrl. Whassup”
Take it easy with the jokes
Yeah, sure, a funny text here and there is fine, but don’t think this is the time to start practicing for your next stand-up gig.
There’s no need to make every text funny.
In fact, when you try and be too funny, you often send out weird texts from time to time.
You’ll feel as though you need to “outdo” yourself text and just be funnier all the time.
Also, you don’t need to put “lol” or “haha” in very sentence.
Don’t bother with weird “texting rules”
I’ve made this mistake myself before in the past.
You’ll often hear from “gurus” that you have to wait so long until you text her back so you don’t come off as “needy”.
This supposedly “increases your value” since she’s an afterthought and will make her want you more.
Unfortunately, though, when you follow such “wisdom,” you often end up confusing women as they’re not really sure if you’re even interested.
I’ve actually had women make other plans on the day of the date because I played so “hard to get” and waited too long to reply back.
Don’t make this mistake.
If she texts you right back, you’re close to your phone, and your hands are fully capable of functioning at the moment, TEXT HER RIGHT BACK as well. .
There’s nothing “needy” about this.
She’s obviously interested when she replies back at lighting fast speed and you should do the same.
There’s no point in screwing around.
Now, there will obviously be times when your phone isn’t close by, and in this case, obviously just text her back when you can.
Also, don’t worry about “texting less words than she texted.”
Yes, you can read super dumb advice like this online as well.
If you text less words than she did, sometimes your texts may not make any sense.
It really doesn’t matter if your texts are longer than hers.
She will not “bail on a date” because of this.
STOP TEXTING HER and get her out on a #$%ing date
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard women complain about this over the years.
This is especially true when it comes to online dating.
Although I don’t recommend bringing up questions about the site/app you used when meeting women online, women will often ask you questions such as”
“How long have you been using this for?”
“How do you like it?”
“How many people have you met so far?”
Want to hear something funny that ATTRACTIVE women would often say when I would “flip the table” and ask them the same questions back? (Again, only if they brought it up. Don’t bother talking about stuff like this if she doesn’t mention it)
Their replies would often be….
“I don’t know what I think of it. There’s a lot of creepy guys on it”
BUT, a LOT of times they would say:
“Well, this is actually my first date. I’ve chatted with quite a few guys but they NEVER ACTUALLY ASKED ME ON A DATE. THEY JUST TEXTED ME”
Almost always the women who said this were ones who had been on the site for a MINIUMUM of 3 months.
Ask her on a date and stop @#$%ing around.
Women DO NOT care about how “skilled” of a texter you are
Trust me on this.
Women are not bragging to their friends or coworkers about how “tight” your “text game” is.
Also, no woman is going break up with you so she can find a guy who will satisfy her deepest “texting fantasies.”
This NEVER happens….
The FINAL point here is to RELAX!
I STRONGLY discourage putting too much thought into a woman’s “reply time” to a text.
Some women will reply back almost instantly, whereas others will take a little while.
I’m sure you’ve been there before.
You sent out a text and next thing you know 30 minutes pass, then it’s an hour, then it’s 2, 3, and she still hasn’t replied. (The WROST thing you can do here is send out a bunch of extra texts)
She seemed into you, right?
Well, chances are she still is.
Here are some reasons why she many not have responded right away….
-she was working and didn’t notice it
-her phone died
-an emergency came up
-she’s playing a little hard to get
-she’s in an area with no cell reception
-she feel asleep
-you asked her on a date and she needs to confirm that the time works
-she rarely checks her phone
-she lost her phone
-her phone isn’t working properly
-she forgot her phone at home and is at work
-you made a statement.There was no question in your text and therefore no reason for her to reply back.
-she really likes you and is nervous about texting you back
AND….a not so great but very real possibility:
-she’s not interested and doesn’t want to appear rude
So there you have it, guys, everything you will EVER need to know about texting!
I hope this article helped and if you follow the tips above, you’ll find yourself getting more women on dates and less time texting them 😉